The Perpetual Motion of Anxiety: When Rest Feels Like a Risk
As a psychologist specializing in anxiety disorders, I've devoted my career to understanding the mechanics of the anxious mind and finding strategies to bring relief to my patients. Yet, the most profound insights often come from my own struggles with anxiety. It may come as a surprise to some, but mental health professionals are not immune to the very challenges we help others navigate. I, too, have found myself caught in the spiral of relentless busyness — a cycle that serves as both a symptom of and a coping mechanism for anxiety.
The Conundrum of Overextension: In reflecting upon my experiences, both professional and personal, I've recognized a consistent pattern among adults with anxiety: a life characterized by the ceaseless chant of "go, go, go," an aversion to stillness, and a tendency to overextend. This pattern resonates with me, as there were times when activity was my sanctuary from a sea of racing thoughts — a psychological paradox where movement both alleviates and perpetuates anxiety. This chronic busyness is not just a product of our times; it is intricately linked to underlying anxiety that demands constant activity as both a distraction and a means of self-validation. In a paradoxical pursuit of mental peace, individuals with anxiety frequently overextend themselves, filling their schedules to the brim. Each appointment is a diversion, and every ticked box is minor validation that fleetingly eases the anxiety. Yet, this overextension can be a treacherous cycle — one where the individual becomes so accustomed to chronic busyness that downtime begins to feel unnatural and even anxiety-provoking. I've learned that the compulsion to remain in perpetual motion is not only an escape from internal unease but also a trap.
Moving Forward With Awareness: Recognizing this pattern is the first step toward change. It's important for adults who find themselves in a relentless rhythm of activity to consider whether anxiety might be driving their behavior. By acknowledging this possibility, they can begin the journey toward establishing healthier patterns, prioritizing self-care, and welcoming the restorative power of stillness. For those who find themselves in this relentless cycle, remember, breaking it will not happen overnight — it takes practice, patience, and often professional guidance. Yet, with each step taken towards embracing calm, one can move closer to a life where rest is not a risk but a reward.
The Task of Slowing Down: The remedy, though seemingly simple, is not easy — it involves slowing down. Slowing down means consciously making space in the day for stillness, for reflection, and for rest. It's about recognizing that often, less is more, and that rest is not a luxury but a necessity. Some examples of ways to slow down in your day-to-day include: setting 5-10 minutes of mindful breathing each day, reading for pleasure (not work or self-improvement), putting electronic devices away while spending time with loved ones, laying with your pet and matching your breathing with theirs, focusing on the warm water hitting your back in the shower, and acknowledging small moments that bring you joy.
Conclusion: Tenacity lies in the quiet moments we afford ourselves, the pauses between the 'go's. Whether you're a mental health professional, a high-achieving executive, a caring parent, or anyone facing the demands of life with anxiety, remember that serenity does not negate success. Stillness is not the antithesis of progress but rather, its companion. Through my personal and professional experience, I've learned that rest is a fundamental aspect of resilience — a lesson I hope imparts courage to others.
If you're struggling with anxiety and the compulsion to remain continuously active, know that you are not alone. Seeking support from a mental health professional can offer strategies and insights that pave the way toward a more balanced, peaceful life.
*Disclaimer: The content provided in this blog post is intended for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified healthcare providers with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition.*